The only way to win the battle is not to fight to begin with.

The irony about the rat race is, it is not designed for anyone to win, yet everyone is hell-bent on not loosing.

Hey guys! I hope you’re doing great. No too much intro today (actually, I think I have run out of intros lol), so let’s just get into today’s episode.

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If there’s anything I love more than reading books, is having conversations about books, and that’s what happened this week. I decided to read The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel after seeing a couple of reviews, and just a few pages into the book boy was I glad I did!

Here’s a part of the book and what a friend and I had to say about it.

H: I have ruminated over it for the longest time. How it is true that the goalpost keeps moving with each achievement and enough becomes not enough and how people risk so much for more because they were not satisfied with enough

Me: Before reading, I was just thinking about how dissatisfaction itself might just be the disease we need to cure. You know, always reaching out for more, never acknowledging that what we already have might be enough —or at least enough to sustain us for that period— and appreciating what we have before reaching out for more.

And that, no matter how hard we work, or how hard we go at our set goals, if we do not ‘cure’ the disease, we’ll never really feel accomplished.

And I also saw/read it somewhere that, it helps if we picture what success means to us in basic or mundane things.

Like, “success to me is having dinner and spending quality time with my family” or, “making pancakes for my family on a bright morning”, or “meeting up with my babes to have quality conversations” etc.

Sometimes the goalposts we set for ourselves are too complex for us to know when we eventually hit the mark.

The point behind this is, being able to easily identify the moment success actually happens, by relating it with the mundane things that actually light up our soul. The one void of whatever social attachment there is.

In the end, success —or happiness— really is what we make it to be. And to put it plainly, happiness is simply results minus expectations.

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Have a fantastic week!

Yosola.

P.S. If you would like to have conversations about books, or recommend some to me, I’ll be more than happy to hear them! You can leave a comment on this post and we’ll hit it off from there. Gracias!