People are only a projection of what they feel inside.

On how nobody is really 'evil' and what people say about letting love lead.

Hey guyss! How are you doing? I’m doing quite alright, though I have loads of work piled up for today. Hopefully I get to do all of them before the day runs out.

I woke up happy today, okay maybe not the jumping-around kind of happy but well you get my point, then Airtel decided to ruin my mood. And when I tried complaining, their customer care legit hung up on me. How beautiful.

If you have read my previous newsletter on Who Moved my Cheese?, I hope you have started making conscious effort to turn the tide, because life would always request for change from time to time.

Also, I found out the author wrote a sequel Out of the Maze, I really can’t wait wait to find out what happened to Hem, you know, if he ever got to move out of Cheese Station C. I should probably write an episode on that too, what do you think?

Sometimes, I fear I might run out of things to talk (write) about. Sometimes, I get ideas during the week and I jot them down somewhere in a book , and other times (like today), I am completely clueless on what to write about. I love what Hameed wrote in his newsletter (I absolutely recommend you subscribe btw) about how writing can be difficult, from what to write, to how to write, to what to share (and not share), it’s an extreme sport. But somehow, I still show up every two weeks to share something. I give myself accolades for that actually.

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Last month, while I was reading one of my favorite books The 5am Club by Robin Sharma (he is an absolute genius by the way!), and he said something that really struck me probably because I had never looked at it in that perspective. If you are on my WhatsApp cl, or you watch my IG stories, then you’ve probably heard me talk about this a lot.

Robin Sharma said..

I don’t believe anyone is truly evil. Well maybe a few. People are only ‘evil’ because of the trauma they have experienced in their lives. Only people in pain do painful things to others. Individuals whose behavior is confusing are generally confused themselves. They are just really hurting. To call them a horrible person is a superficial judgement. It’s a lot deeper than quick perception.

This just means that nobody is really a horrible person, they are just going through a trauma and that is the best way they know how to process it. For example, the bully in school is probably going through a divorce phase from his parents, or the sassy Queen Bee is probably being rejected by her parents or didn’t get enough love and attention while she was younger. Also, the ones who criticizes other people’s body are most likely not confident in their own bodies themselves — thereby projecting their own insecurities onto other people. The list goes on and on. The point is, people are only a projection of what they feel inside.

Image from Valerie Tate

The truth is, everyone at some point in their lives have faced some trauma (although at various degrees). It only takes a high level of self awareness not to project your ‘wounds’ onto other people. That is what I would say makes the difference between the ‘good’ and the ‘evil’.

So the next time someone is being bitter towards you, I hope you realize that it is really not about you —but them. I also hope you don’t blame yourself for it and most importantly, I hope you find the courage to retaliate with LOVE instead because the world is filled with enough hatred already.

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Love and light,

Yosola.